How to Deal With Jealousy

Remember that, often, the biggest fuel for jealousy is jealousy itself. You should notice whether you find yourself jumping to extreme conclusions on random events, or imagine everybody targeting you all the time. Then, you might just be chronically jealous. In this state, you will mostly find that you are driving yourself, and your near and dear ones.

Dealing with pangs of this emotion can often be a challenge. The first step along the way is to recognize and admit to the fact that you are jealous. Another way of recognizing that you have it, is if you doubt everyone who is close to you or obsess about a single delay in his/her response.

Here are some ways to deal with the same:

➾ First and foremost, you need to control yourself. Life shows each individual several reasons to be jealous. However, that does not mean that each reason can be a justification to the chronic jealousy. So primarily, you need to be able to have control over your own emotions and thoughts, to avoid it.

➾ The second most important way is to have a good self-esteem. You may dislike when said that a maximum number of jealous people have a low self-esteem. That is why they are such easy targets for this virus. So, if you need to stay away from it, you need to feel good about yourself. This way, another individual's abilities will not affect you negatively.

➾ The third way is to avoid jumping to conclusions. Hurried responses are often the reason for increase in the same. Give people the benefit of doubt. Do not jump to negative conclusions in the first instance. See both sides of the coin and examine all the possibilities. Not only will this delay feeling for you, but also calm you down with positive energy.

➾ Sometimes, it can also be a good thing, it can lead a person to have the grit, determination, and fire to achieve something more than expected in life. This is where its positive impact comes into play. However, if this goes out of hand, the negatives may creep in eventually. So, be cautious and conscious of the same and use it optimally.

➾ Do not jump to the conclusion that every friend of your partner's is hitting on them. There is a possibility that many are, and there is nothing wrong with that. However, that does not mean that your partner is also interested in them. Often people are not even aware of their friends having feelings for them. So, do not jump to the conclusion right away.

This can have two-fold effects, firstly, there will not be anything unknown to foster this feeling and secondly, the other person will be aware of the jealous person's nature and the transition it can begin.

➾ Another requirement for any relationship is trust and honesty. These are the sure fire methods to avoid this problem completely. Any relationship that thrives on the pillars of honesty and trust, will be away from this emotion, simply because there is no unknown.

Just like the fear of darkness, this emotion thrives in the unknown. Honesty and trust are the torches that remove the darkness and eradicate this feeling.

➾ Giving each other time is extremely important. Surveys have shown that couples that don't get to spend time with each other are often more prone to this. In this case, this emotion grows to unbelievable extents and drives the couple mad, leading to a bad breakup.

This is an anger management method, but it also works for jealousy management. So, be quiet the moment this emotion erupts and give it time to settle, before you talk.

Ironically, in a relationship, this problem can often distance the very person from you, whom you are fighting to hold closer.

It is a menace, a plague upon the paradise of peace, that can ruin all that is good and true. Following the aforementioned ways, might prove useful to stay away from it. More so, it is the most negative energy that one can put out into the universe, so, you can imagine what you will get out of it (hint: negativity).